Man’s Natural State

Marriage, like War, is Man’s Natural State.

the Obscure South Texas Philosopher,
Dr. Bill Hauser

Grow Old along with Me,

The Best is yet to Be;

The Last of Life

For which the First was Made.

Robert Browning
from a card given Bobby by Susan

is the One Thing

you can Seldom Over Do.

Robert Jorrie

When you wish to give someone your “Best Wishes,”

I believe you should really DO it,

and that you really should tell them those feelings
earnestly and honestly and “to their face.”

But I believe doing so in a forum SO PUBLIC is:

synthetic, artificial, affected, contrived, phony, insincere, ingenuine and condescending

for it is obviously not intended
to convey those good feelings of love and affection to the addressees …

it is instead OBVIOUSLY intended, to deliver them

IN FRONT OF OTHERS.

And in spite of the fact that sponsers of parties often seem compelled to make this thing happen at parties,

I do not believe
that I am “alone” in my feelings

about the inappropriateness of “Roasting and Toasting” either

for whenever I have seen this done, the guests seem to perceive and appraise “roasting and toasting” the same way I do:

AND THE GUESTS REACT TO IT THE SAME WAY I DO:

1. THE FLATTERY PART IS SIMPLY DISBELIEVED,

2 .the “TEASING” IS VIEWED AS QUITE RUDE.

3. the audience DOESN’T SEEM TO APPRECIATE it, as they clap very little.

4. and THEY DON’T THINK IT “FUNNY”

(as they laugh almost “not at all” at the “jokes”
and when they DO laugh, they laugh, NERVOUSLY)

5. and they seem ALMOST UNABLE to wait “for it to be over“

To me, this is NOT something you do to someone you love.

And, I chose not to participate in what I think is both”INAPPROPRIATE and RUDE”

Robert Jorrie,
June 1st,1991

 

Neal Litwin
an upholstery Buyer
at the Jorrie Furniture Co
sometime between 1965 and 1971

Give them Pleasure, instead.

Lucille Malcolm Orr
as related to me by Dut Marx
1991

Hate is like acid …

it can do more damage to the vessel in which it is stored

than to the object onto which it is poured.

from the “Goodie Collection” of Dut Marx

I don’t believe in personal Revenge or in “getting even” with someone when they do something “wrong” to me.

The Old Testament doesn’t describe how I feel and believe as well as I’d like … but the New Testament says:

“Revenge is Mine, saith the Lord.”

Note that it does not say that Revenge is “ours”

meaning that both God and I may take Revenge …

and I take that to mean that God does not permit us to share that “privelege” with him

I believe that Revenge is reserved to God’s Exclusive Domain.

I believe that if you “mind your own Business” and let God do “God’s business,” and that if you live your life “Right” all the time

and if you are a little bit lucky,

that sometimes God
will permit you to watch his Perfect Law of Retribution “in Action”

and you just might get to see the guy that “did it to you”

get “What Is Coming” to him.

But if you try to watch … or if you try to make it happen, then you are invading God’s province.

Robert Jorrie,
1991

When a deep injury is done us,
we never recover until we forgive.

The first step is to forgive yourself.

Learning to Forgive doesn’t mean you forget what happened to you.

You’ve been badly hurt and you need to express your pain and humiliation and that you’ve been wronged.

It takes time to forgive,
but it begins with communication.

Once the two of you can talk about this,

and also to express that the reasons for your pain are linked to your love,
you probably will begin to find relief.

Revenge and anger are destructive emotions.

If you learn to forgive, you’ll find it is a very “free-ing” experience.

It is entirely worth working towards.

Dut Marx
given to me 12/29/9

Vincent T Lombardi
Coach of the Pittsburg Steelers in the Mid 60’s